Hints and Tips For Clients
Make your first contact memorable. Be concise, honest, friendly and open. If you just want info (shopping?) be honest. If you want to schedule an appointment, suggest best time for you (don't say "How about some time next week?") Mention fee if you don't already know, but don't ask specific questions about it. Don't be graphic or speak about specific services-EVER.Tell her about yourself. Tell her where you heard about her. Don't waste her time--she gets plenty of inquiries, make yours stand out. Use her preferred method of contact and be aware that she has a life outside of working hours the same way you, so your initial contact with her should be whatever method she prefers. Just as you wouldn't want to be placed in a position with a phone call from her during your family time, or in front of your boss at work, she will desire discretion as well. Don't flood her with calls, emails, or text messages. Give her some time to answer, usually 24-48 hrs works well. She is probably busy with other clients, and if she is independant she doesn't have a secretary helping her with her correspondence. At this stage, don't do anything that will raise red flags that would make her believe your unstable or obsessive. This business can be dangerous for her, so don't make her feek threatened with inappropriate questions, or excessive contact. Talking on the phone or via e-mail gives you a great idea what she's going to be like in person. If she's friendly and nice, she will be friendly and nice in person. Its also your chance to start building her perception of you. Be respectful. These girls are PEOPLE. Treat them like you would a girlfriend or lover and they will respond positively. It sounds simple, but most guys are pushy and rude. Expect that she will do some sort of screening and ask you questions. Most ladies will do this to ensure your not associated with Law Enforcement and that your safe and sane to visit with. Recognize that her need to be safe behind closed doors with you is every bit as important as your safety when your visiting her! Now that you've made a good first impression, carry it through to the appointment. Show up on time! Be freshly showered and presentable. If your coming from work or other activities, ask if its possible to use her shower remember that excellent hygiene is a turn on to many women. Be careful of doing anything that would scare her or cause her to be suspicious. Make a great in-person first impression!Be confident and relaxed. Act like you've done this before. Greet her cordially, and smile and look her in the eye. Be nice--it costs no more and it will pay off in better dividends when it counts.Place the agreed upon fee on a dresser or nightstand. Pre-counted and in a plain white envelope is always a nice touch. Don't seal the envelope. You may even hand it directly to her if it feels comfortable or if she extends her hand--but DO NOT SAY ANYTHING. Nothing. Just hand it over in payment for her time. Don't argue, ask for explanations, try to bargain, or otherwise ruin the mood at this point. Have a little trust and faith, and you will be rewarded!She will likely ask you if you would "...like to get comfortable?" This is your cue to disrobe completely. She may even offer to help you undress. Don't grab her or make any crude remarks. Remember, Everything in its time...Talk to her--simple but very, very effective. Talk about her--compliment her attire, her hairstyle, her perfume. Whatever, but be honest--phoniness shows up quickly. If she asks about you be open and honest--it shows. Women like to relax and have a good time, just like you. Talking during the session relaxes everyone and makes it more enjoyable for all. Don't be pushy or grabby. Let her guide the session at her pace. You would be surprised at the improvement in service you'll get.After you get to know each other a bit, she may stroke or rub you a little. Let it progress on its own rhythm. She is aware of the time and will make sure you get your business done in the allotted time. Don't try to rush things along as it can cause things to turn awkward quickly. If you encounter a "No!" response, then just don't break stride and be sure that you respect her guidelines. Above all, accept her limits, treat her with respect and caring, and you will have a good session anyway.Be gentle and considerate. Women operate on a much more sensitive level than men do. Don't forget that women enjoy it when you do things to please them as well. After the session is over, make sure you are mindful of her schedule and don't overstay your welcome. If the session is going well and you are interested in spending additional time with her, it is polite to ask her if she is able to extend your stay. If you both agree to extend, you should pay her for the additional time right then. If the service was excellent and the company was superb, think about leaving a small tip to express your gratitude. Especially, if you are thinking of seeing her again. Depending on the length of the visit, a token tip of anywhere from $20 to $100 would surely be appreciated--figure this into your budget for the evening. Although tipping isn't necessary, it is always appreciated. If you would like to forgo the tip, you can always stop and pick her up a small gift if she provides a list on her site of favorite things. Not only does this show your thoughtful, but it will make it much easier for her to recall who you are if you use her as a reference with another provider in the future.Bonus Tips. The final thought here is to use common sense and civility at all times. Treat the girl as you would like to be treated--with respect, kindness, caring, and genuine sensitive feelings.